Alpha Male: What are the Best Masculine Traits for a Romantic Hero? #MFRWauthor

Welcome back to the #MFRWauthor 52-Week Blog Challenge. We’ve hit Week #19 and the topic du jour is all about the alpha male and which masculine traits you’ll find in a romantic hero from one of my ebooks.

Okay, first of all, I’m going out on a limb to say I’m really not sure a romantic leading man has to be an “alpha male”.

Wait, what now?

Well, in my opinion, a true alpha male is kind of a prick, you know? Sure, he can kick butt and save the heroine (and the rest of humanity right along with her), but the quintessential alpha male also tends to be a domineering son-of-a-gun who walks around scowling at everyone and speaking in grunts because he’s too pissed off at the world to interact like a rational human being. Think ‘caveman-with-attitude’.

Faced with a romantic hero like that, what could possibly make the female leading character (or male, depending on the category of romance story we’re talking about)  swoon over him and want to be with him forever and ever? Sure, she might be physically attracted to his bulging muscles and the fact he wants to drag her off and…*ahem*…, but what happens after the sex is over? He goes back to stalking around and she just ends up being perpetually ticked off.

Thanks, I’ll pass…

Instead, I think a romantic hero should have characteristics similar to the ones I, as a reader, fall in love with when I get lost in an author’s romance story. My idea of a swoon-worthy hero is a man who has most of all of these masculine traits:

  • a sense of humor
  • intelligence
  • is able to string several words together to form a coherent sentence (no grunting, please, unless he’s in the throes of passion with the heroine)
  • honorable and loyal
  • he treats his love interest as an equal
  • he respects the heroine
  • if he’s “broken”, he’s redeemable
  • okay, so shoot me – he’s got some muscles!

It’s interesting to see that my Main Man’s qualities are actually emotional and personality-driven instead of physical, for the most part. When you think of a romantic hero, what masculine traits does he have? Let us know in the comments below!

This is a blog hop. Please visit some of the other participating authors to see what they come up with – alpha male or emotional connection?

12 thoughts on “Alpha Male: What are the Best Masculine Traits for a Romantic Hero? #MFRWauthor

  1. Meka James says:

    I would check off everything on your list, especially respecting the heroine. Too many of these ‘alphas’ don’t show respect to the female because they ‘know best’. They’ve staked claim to the woman and in doing so the female is supposed to give up all free thought. I don’t see that as swoon worthy but since they are ‘broken’ in some why it makes it okay. Not!

    LOL on the grunting and scowling. No talking in short clipped sentences.

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  2. RaineBalkera says:

    😀 This was funny! And, so far we all seem to agree on most points, which is cool. I gave up on Alpha’s in the early 90s with Johanna Lindsey, but then I remembered that part of the enjoyment came in the Grunting Alphas’ slowly melting down to a polished gem on account of the persistent female lead. Heck, she’s his captive or spoils of war, so it’s up to her to find her own happiness. Thanks for sharing!


    • RobinMichaela says:

      Johanna Lindsey was one of my favorite authors (I haven’t read any of her recent work), but she did write the Grunting Alpha, for sure. At least you could see her heroes’ “polished gem” lurking underneath, unlike some other authors who left you wondering why ANYONE would like their hero, much less fall in love with him. Thanks for stopping by!


  3. Cathy Brockman says:

    I love your list of traits I have to agree. I am kinda liking this new phase of the nerds and geeks. I love a man with brains and a big heart. Seeing a man being gentle with an animal or child makes me turn to mush. I guess that’s why I like cowboys they have to be attuned to horses and animals.Rough on the outside loving on the inside. Great post.

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